21.   As simplistic as it sounds, making time to talk is the antidote every researcher recommends, beginning with the birth of the first baby and never letting up.

22.   Because her parents had persuaded her not to put her first baby up for adoption, she did her best to hide this pregnancy from them.

23.   But her first baby strangled to death during birth, the umbilical cord wrapped around his neck.

24.   But she never saw her first baby before adoption, and she finally remembers that one of her teen-age sex partners was black.

25.   Five months ago, her first baby was born.

26.   He and his sometime-girlfriend just had their first baby.

27.   He is the first baby born in America to parents who escaped the war in Kosovo.

28.   He was the first baby she had ever baptized.

29.   Home is the brick apartment building on the Grand Concourse in the Bronx, where you and your husband lived after the first baby came.